Strengths are the positive feelings that children have when they perform different actions or activities. There are inner qualities that make the child feel most alive and because of that, there are the places where we have the potential to make most meaningful contributions to their life.
Strengths can be developed at a very early age and parents can help out.
Explore your child’s different learning styles to understand his/her performance at school. Experiment with pictures, words and sounds to see which they responds to the best.
Simply hearing what your child is saying gives you greater insight into his strengths and weaknesses. Listen to what they have to say about the day at school: he/she may focus on their performance in physical education, indicating a strength in hands-on and physical activities. They may also downplay his experience in math class, indicating a weakness when dealing with numbers.
Parents can follow some simple guidelines to get on the way to help your children discover their strengths:
Participate in various activities together.
By this way you’re able to observe your child’s behavior. Going to a museum, park or going to the library helps identify your child’s individual strengths and weaknesses. Play with your child on a daily basis. You’ll learn much from the toys they choose. their general interests often indicates strengths or talents.
Use play and cultivate their imagination.
During play, children are free to unleash and exercise their Strengths. Watch your child while they play and you will learn a great deal about what they prefer, how they socialize, and how they view themselves. Play encourages emotional growth and cognitive enrichment.
Seek out what makes your child unique.
Take note of the things your child does like anything that strikes you about his/her behavior. Try to notice how your child to express joy and happiness, what are the things that keep the attention longest or is your child generous/ sympathetic etc. Sometimes the most unusual things signal the areas of deepest strength.
Listen to your kids.
Kids know their strengths better than anyone. In order to listen effectively, you must ask a lot of questions without interrupting them. Show your child you are interested in their view. Genuinely listen and reflect back to your child.
Differentiate between strengths and interests and Help your child discover both.
Strengths are the positive feelings that children have when they perform different actions. Interests are the areas where they apply their strengths. For example, a child may be drawn to animals and therefore it can be said they have an interest in animals. However, the strength for one child can be caring and for the other can be teaching animals. The strength can be transformed to interests.
Don’t compare them.
There is nothing more disturbing to your children’s abilities to discover their strengths than when they feel they are constantly being compared to others, be their peers or their siblings. Every child will be unique and different. The more you celebrate the difference, the better.
Give them choices.
Encourage your kids to choose between a variety of things to do, support their choices even if they aren’t what you would pick.
It’s so easy to focus on our kids’ weaknesses. Each child has a different set of strengths and weaknesses. Nurturing strengths while improving weaknesses is the key to raising your own well-rounded, happy and fulfilled child.