Shy, exuberant, intense, or laid-back—what kind of child do you have, and where did these traits come from? By figuring out your child’s temperament, you can better understand what he’s all about.
WHAT IS TEMPERAMENT:
Temperament is something we’re born with—it’s a set of traits that makes each of us unique, and it’s a powerful factor in determining how we react to the world. The way a child approaches a new situation is one example of temperament at work.
DIFFERENT KIDS, DIFFERENT REACTIONS:
Why do these three children react so differently to the same situation? Each of these three boys was born with his own temperament. How your child reacts to everyday routines, transitions, unfamiliar situations, and new people is influenced by his temperament.
Although there are many ways that temperament can be defined, but the most important five traits that represent the range of inborn characteristics: intensity of reaction, activity level, tolerance for frustration, response to change, and reaction to new people.
INTENSITY OF REACTION:
Some kids tell the world loud and clear how they feel. They’re what we would call big reactors. Kids on the low range of intensity tend to be quiet and rarely fuss, sleep more than average, and show their emotions with only slight changes, they are called as low reactors.
What one can do for big reactors-
- Turn things down.
- Anticipate blowups.
What one can do for small reactors-
- Turn things up to attract their attention.
- Devise activities.
If your child is action oriented you’ll probably know by the time she’s walking. She’ll always want to be on the go, exploring the world around her by crawling, running, and climbing. These movers and shakers love spaces that offer lots of opportunity for movement. While kids who are content to sit and play quietly, and may prefer exploring with their hands instead of their legs. They tend to take in the world by looking or listening. Their interest in the things around them can be every bit as strong as an active baby’s, but they don’t feel the same need to be up and about.
What one can do for active child:
- Offer lots of oppurtunities.
- Don’t expect your child.
What one can do for less active child:
- Entice your child.
- Listen to music together.
TOLERANCE FOR FRUSTRATION:
You may have clues about how well your child copes with frustration in the first year, but this will become more evident in toddlerhood. Children who are persistent usually keep trying when faced with a challenge and have the patience to wait for their needs to be met. A baby with a high tolerance for frustration will keep trying until she gets the cracker into her mouth. While one child may try over and over, a less persistent baby may give up and cry or attempt another activity instead.
What one can do for the child who easily gives up:
- When your child falls apart.
- Try again later.
What one can do with child who are determinant:
- Join your child in his play.
- Check to see.
RESPONSE TO CHANGE:
Childrens who tends to reacts to the smallest of shifts—a new food on their plate or a slight change in the bedtime routine. They have more tantrums, which can be triggered by anything. Other children take change in stride. They tend to find new jackets, new friends, and new foods interesting; and they respond comfortably anywhere you take them.
What one can do with those child who doesn’t wants to change the things:
- Use familiar objects.
- Ease itno new activities.
What one can do with those child who are willing to accept the changes:
- Be sensitive to your child’s signals.
- Be sure to find some one-on-one.
REACTION TO NEW PEOPLE:
A trait that is often apparent to parents early on is how your child reacts to new people. Does he engage newcomers by smiling or cooing (if he’s nonverbal), or is he shy and hesitant around people he doesn’t know? Kids who are slow to warm up tend to need time and support from trusted caregivers before they feel comfortable enough to interact.
What one can do for “let’s take it slow” child:
- Introduce your child to others.
- Don’t label your child as shy or exuberant.
What one can do “Glad to meet your child”:
- Be ready to step in.
- Provides lot of oppurtunities.